An Open Letter to Mike Rinder

 - by Taryn Rinder


As your daughter I naturally would rather not be writing this. But I have no choice given your continued actions against the Church you and my mother raised me in, your constant grandstanding to get attention and my concern for my young sibling and his brother who you and your new wife are raising.

I made the mistake of once hoping you would someday turn into a decent person and father. One hears of stories in the news of unfit parents, parents who abuse their children or spouses, who desert their children. A parent must take responsibility for one's children. If not, they have no right to be a parent. It saddens me to have to say this, but you were unfit to be a father. You belittled and harassed my brother and me both physically and emotionally, while abusing our mother. Our family members have suffered at your hands for the last 30+ years.

You would make fun of both my brother and I. Do you recall belittling us and calling me hurtful things like “chubby” and calling my brother “grub?” “Affection” and “warmth” to you was checking our nails and clothes, then berating my brother and me. This was the first thing you would do when you saw us. As you know, for 13 years as a young girl I thought my father did not even like me as the only comments you would make were ones of belittlement.

Your recklessness also upset my brother, me and my mother because it showed you didn’t care. Specifically, your driving endangered us almost every single time you drove us anywhere. The most dangerous was on our trips to Big Bear for Christmas and on snowy, unclear, very windy mountain roads. You would drive like a maniac and try to race other cars, with no concern for the safety of your wife or 2 small children in the car.  I bet you still drive that way.  You have no concern for the safety of others, not even your own family.

Remember when I was 8 years old I was hit by a car and suffered severe injuries? It could have even been fatal. You were never there once during the time I spent in the hospital, writhing in pain, getting operations, suffering burn treatments, high on painkillers and almost dead. My own father never showed up to see me for the months and months I was recovering. My mom was there 24 hours a day for me, helping me cope by applying LRH assist tech. Where was my father?

You did the exact same thing when my brother got potentially fatal cancer a few years ago. Mom tried to see you to tell you that your son needed care. You refused to speak to her and selfishly didn’t care the entire time my brother was suffering through chemotherapy, physical stresses, operation after operation to remove the cancer and finally cosmetic surgery.

Then  you and a couple of your  degraded friends tried to harass my brother at his place of work, months after he was now well and recovered from his extensive cancer treatment. It was all phony, staged for some TV cameras to make it look like you care about your son. Your idea of showing your care is to come with a video camera and some brute bully to try to force your way in to see your son who otherwise doesn’t exist in your mind. To those of us who know you know it was all an act. You show up for the first time in years after deserting us with not one single word?  It was all for show.  You even admitted to this.

I feel sorry for my youngest sibling and his brother. They will soon be faced with their own accidents and illnesses. They will learn as my brother and I did that you only care for you. I would never think to put you on a "who to contact in case of emergency" form as it would be the difference of life and death.  You are too self-absorbed to care about others.

I also am convinced you will desert and hurt your current wife, the mother of my young sibling. Based on the behavior I know of for 20+ years, I can only be sure you are still being lazy, leaving everything to your wife to handle and even worse not caring for her or your children.  After many years of refusing communication and responsibility for your marriage to my mom and your 2 children by her, you physically abused her right in front of me. You mutilated her arm, with keys in your hands and ripped and ruined the skin and muscle in her forearm. You pulled her shoulder out of place to such an extent it needed surgery. Your reaction was to laugh about it.

Will you tell my sibling that you were not even legally divorced when you impregnated his mother? And that she is the same age as your daughter?  Once an adulterer, always an adulterer. I can safely predict you will desert his mom like you deserted ours, no doubt with a mistress or prostitute on the side.

Your anger and cruelty didn’t stop with my mother and us. In my presence your anger bursts led to you spraining my uncle Andrew's finger. My uncle also informed me that you as his older brother even tried to suffocate him as a child. People like this with such a long history of anger and abuse of others are usually under mental care. Your wife and children will discover this insane rage may occur any time. The last time I saw you there was insanity in your eyes. I really felt like I was looking at someone I did not know and who was taken over by demons. People like you have to be watched as you are irrational and do not control yourself and end up hurting the lives of people around you. Your current mental and physical state is scary.

Your own mother expressed upset to me that you would not ever make time for her over the years, even when an opportunity arose to spend time together. However, you did find time to go into her living quarters, unannounced and also without permission, to rifle through her stuff and room. Not only that, but you allowed a total stranger into her personal room. My grandmother told me how violated she felt by this and that you had even gone through her drawers, as her stuff was moved around. I won’t even repeat here the words my grandmother had for you, but I can tell you she felt you betrayed her to a level she never could have imagined and was ashamed that she raised you as a son.  You were no offspring of hers or her husband.  And with your current path you won’t have a chance to change this before she dies.  Not that you care.  She adores my uncle and my aunt as they adore her.  We have an extremely close family.  But you were too self-centered to be part of it. You could not ever experience the love and joy that family members normally have for each other.  My uncle told me that once in class at school his teacher after roll call asked him if he had any association with Mike Rinder. When he told the teacher you are his brother he was kicked out of the class. That’s the stigma you carry around even today whether you realize it or not.

I feel especially sorry for my young sibling and his older brother. I highly suspect that the older one is already experiencing abuse on a covert level and may not know it or may not be able to verbalize it to his mother. I would not be surprised if he is being mentally or physically affected daily already by you just as my brother and I were when we were little. But what do you expect from someone who at an early age "for fun" put firecrackers in kittens anuses and let them explode? Cruelty to animals as a child soon became cruelty to your family members.

Your wife and children will find out soon enough if they haven’t already that you are lazy. You do not have a real honest working job. I can pretty much guarantee you will not be able to financially support your children or give them proper education. For example, there were several projects I know of when you worked at the same place I work that self-destructed due to your incompetence. I know you were found goofing off on the job and slacking off. I can’t name any actual work you are skilled at, can or will do. This is also of concern to me as my sibling will need to have a good education and be supported until he comes of age. Do you even have a job now? You have been parasitic before and I would not be surprised if you are on welfare or living off your new wife in some way.

I will say, years ago I would not have thought this would have happened to me. It is for this reason that I am writing this letter. It’s sad because my young sibling is no doubt a good kid who won’t deserve what my brother and I endured.  I hope that when he and his brother are old enough they look at you and recognize you for what you are, and that they finally flourish and prosper by their own free will. They will be better for it.


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